Although breaking up may be hard to do, if the environment is toxic, staying in the name of the children may do more harm than good. If you are going to use a past situation as ammunition then it’s time to choose to dissolve the relationship and move on as co-parents. No one deserves to be held as a prisoner in a relationship, and you don’t deserve to take on the role of a warden. If you can’t get over the past then move on to your new future!
Let's work together to change the narrative. Healthy Co-Parenting
I know it’s not masculine to admit to abuse, that’s not what a man does, right? I mean after all, men are the strong ones. To all my fathers, this is ABUSE and you don’t have to take it! Abuse can be verbal, physical, emotional, and mental. Parental alienation is also a form of abuse, not only to the other parent but to the children! Because men are traditionally thought to be physically stronger than women, you might be less likely to report domestic violence, mainly due to embarrassment. It’s unfortunate but more often than not you’re the one going to jail if the police are called.
It’s normal for relationships to be challenging at times, but they should never be difficult or painful. When the issues in a relationship exceed a certain level of stress and negatively impact every aspect of your life (business, friendships, health, and mental stability) that’s when it becomes toxic. Staying in a bad marriage or relationship can raise your stress level to the point where your risk for heart disease increases. The first step to getting out of a toxic relationship is admitting that there is a problem. Do not allow anyone to guilt, shame or manipulate you to stay in a bad situation. Too many people end up in jail or the grave behind toxic relationships.
Just remember, if you want to remove yourself from a situation for the best interest of everyone involved (kids, partner, spouse) you are not being selfish, you are being mature and rational.
Man or woman NEVER put up with abuse in any form from anyone. It’s better to have a Healthy Co-Parenting relationship than a toxic marriage. And for the record, Mothers can be toxic too!
The girls were a little nervous answering the questions and wanted to make sure not to make it seem that they preferred one parent over the other. They expressed love for both parents and just were happy to be able to express themselves. The girls were answering the questions after hearing them for the first time so their answers reflect the first thing that came to mind.
Move on from your past, you don't live there anymore!